To be found outside of them His topics include ducation wealth marriage and children Some of the statistics he uotes are truly arresting g twice as many people in the US compared to the UK are seemingly willing to be miserable in order to be wealthy The claims is Some common beliefs of what leads to happiness held by society just aren t backed up by data Duh Based on the description for this book I thought I was going to be reading a self help book But instead I found it to be like a text book for academics on the subject of happiness complete with graphs or in the case of my kindle ARC no graphs which wasn t helpful I can only assume if you buy the kindle dition there will be graphsI was off to a bad start with this book when the author proclaimed that as an LSE professor he was not Adam Smith: An Enlightened Life expected to swear He then goes on to say that there is no correlation to swearing being due to poor vocabularyand or low intelligence There is howevervidence to suggest that students pay attention to a teacher who swears That s my Crazy Love exclamation point The author then says that swearing is onlyver harmful when it is aggressive or abusive and proceeds to litter the book with swearing as if to prove his point This I found unnecessary and crude and felt it didn t help me learn in the slightestThe book carries this rather sanctimonious attitude throughout and really I felt I was being preached at Yes there are studies in the US and UK reported with x results but we all know about statistics I thought this book was going to be a little bit real life than uoting research at meAt the beginning of ach chapter you are asked two uestions about yourself and then the same two uestions thinking about them in relation to a FRIEND AT THE END OF EACH at the nd of ach the conclusion is then revealed When I wrote papers my conclusion had to be a paragraph succinct sum up what I had written Unfortunately the conclusions in this book were so long winded and over many pages that I lost the point of the conclusion There were a few glimpses of things that I thought now this is interesting but they passed and in the main I found the book unappealing If you are going to be writing a thesis I can imagine you will find plenty of material to uote in this book If you are just someone interested in being happier maybe look up the art of hyggeI m giving this book 3 out of 5 stars Happy Ever After by Paul Dolan is a book about uncovering myths about a perfect life These myths also known as the happiness narrative are what we tend to think what makes us happy but often we are tend to think what makes us happy but often we are off abandoning this narrative Dolan is a behavioral scientist and thus has not surprisingly a very scientific way of looking at this However I liked it that he made it human and relatable by giving his own interpretations of things at times whilst still leaving space for readers to disagree The book consistently worked through several topics on which we are vul. Undbreaking research and data to bust the common myths about happiness and show that the path to fulfilment is actually far unexpected than we thought With straight talking wisdom he invites us to reappraise our values free our minds from the 'narrative traps. .
Nerable to the happiness narrative Ranging from marriage kids health and ducation there will probably be chapters to which you can relate than others but I found several of them to be real ye openers Further I really felt that Dolan was his unapologetic self while writing this book There is some swearing but he also xplains why and I found it hilarious that somebody actually thought that he should not swear because of his position as an academic For fuck sake somebody actually thought that he should not swear because of his position as an academic For fuck sake ridiculous is that Then there is also this thing with not reading fiction weird if you d ask me but hey who am I to judge Besides that this provides for some of the Black Heart, Red Ruby easier content of the book it also taught me another lesson about not falling for the narrative traps that we soasily want to adhere to without realizing if that really is what makes us happyThis book provided me with some interesting things to think about it was not filled with jargon and thus a relatively relaxing read My rating is 35 out of 5 stars I received a digital review copy of this book from Penguin Books UK in xchange for an honest review All opinions are ntirely my own Don t get married don t have kids party hard New Plant Parent: Learn the Ways of Plant Parenthood eat fat and get fat settle down at 75k per annum Not that I don t find some of it appealing But a it s one man s vision of happiness and not a recipe and b it misses out on so much like learning seeing the worldtc I d give it a negative rating if I could 45 starsThis book is a fascinating read and an Dreaming Me: An African-American Woman's Buddhist Journey excellent chance for self and societal reflection While I found the introduction very academic it s been a long time since I used the word deontological the rest of the book gave a broad overview of the societal stories we continue to tell ourselves It doesn t seek to be an authority onach topic or to cover the field but force introspection and assessment of how we continue to believe and uphold those narratives While the arguments in the book don t make me think that happiness is achieved by unlocking certain achievements in society it demonstrates how clearly we are subconsciously swayed by prevailing narratives I found the chapters about income and self determination pretty ye opening A fresh approach on social narratives that follow all of us through our lives In the western world we ought to be successful wealthy ducated married with children healthy The list goes on and on But do those social narratives make us happy Some might and some might not The book also points out how we are permanently judged by people and how we judge people too specially those who make different choices no children no university part
*Time Jobs And Leisure *jobs and leisure tc Society won t change over night of course but reading this book may help to at least uestion all these social narratives on how to lead a perfect life There is no perfect life therefore just live your ownIt was the perfect book to start the new year 2020 as it gave me loads to think about. ' of conventional wisdom and write our own version of the good life based on maximising positive meaningful xperiences that can generate new social benefits not least greater tolerance for different ways of lifeHappiness isn't what you're told It's what you. ,
I read this because I saw the article on The Guardian about how the book talks about how single child free women tend to be happiest However this was only a smaller part of a wider discussion about happiness narratives and how in actuality mainstream societal ideas about what happiness and success mean are very different from what actually makes people happy I could go on about what I liked and didn t like but what actually makes people happy I could go on about what I liked and didn t like but I wasn t the biggest fan because it was sort of boring it took me forever to read because it was a lot of listing statistic after statistic I also thought the physical health narrative he talks about in part 3 was oversimplified It s almost impossible to say you can be physically unhealthy and hardly ver feel miserable because well no a lot of people who are physically unhealthy DO feel miserable If anything I felt he underestimated how good it feels to be in good health I think what he means to say is you do not make 100% healthy choices all of the time but you feel fantastic but a night out here and there in your arly 20s is hardly the same
thing as youras your being in poor health over a long period of time Idk I don t feel strongly nough about this book to recommend it one way or the other It s sort of self help but also academic It s nice to have it validated that being unmarried andor child free are actually good options for women but tbh if you re a woman in your mid 20s or older you have probably already met a woman who lives a great life while unmarried and child free or you are that woman and you feel happy about your choices so you most likely already knew that A book by a behavioural scientist whose main theme is to bring out the xtent to which our life choices and desires career wealth family health charitable giving tc are freuently conditioned by social narrati Paul Dolan is a psychologist and this is an Monsieur Pain educated and well researched book but it is forveryone to read as it is truly fascinating We have a social norm set up for us and we strive to be happy by achieving that norm and woe betide you if you deviate in any way But Mr Dolan suggests that to be really happy we need to move from a culture of please to one of just nough He believes we should have respect for people who choose to live their lives to a different set of rules and look to them for ways to increase our own happiness There is a stigma associated with trying to conform to a narrative and falling short and there is a separate stigma from not trying to conform in the first placeThis is A BOOK THAT SHOULD BE READ BY ALL SORTS book that should be read by all sorts people but maybe most by those who feel there is to life than the latest gadgets or trends but don t know where to turn to find purposeI was given a copy of this book by Netgalley in return for an honest review Dolan writes about how the dominant social narratives restrict our idea of what we have to do with our lives and suggests that sometimes happiness is. Get a good ducation be successful get married have kids and look after your health This is what we're told will make us happy But what if these stories are doing harm than goodIn Happy Ever After bestselling happiness xpert Professor Paul Dolan draws on gro.