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S positively relentless in his uest to commandeer Donna s timeUnwanted attention is not consent and
this is not okay Stalking is very real and can be just as damaging as is not okay Stalking is very real and can be just as damaging as forms of harassmentWhile Donna s life and hardships were interesting a lot of the book was redundant Consent could have been a lot shorter and njoyable without the needless repetitionIf you The Summer Palace: A Captive Prince Short Story (Captive Prince Short Stories Book 2) enjoy memoirs you mightnjoy Consent by Donna FreitasThank you to NetGalley for providing the Kindle version of this book in The Garden of Happy Endings exchange for an honest review Reader Fox Blog Consent by Donna Freitas is a rough book to read Detailing the account of a young woman pursuing a PhD in herarly twenties as she is subjected to the unwanted attentions of a Professor in her program It is a very personal story to the author and yet it is a story that while some pieces are changed and some have come out worse than others many women in the world have xperienced at one point or another Whether it is the case of a stalker as with Donna Freitas or sexual harassment that takes darker turns But what they all have in common and something I believe many people have a tendency to ignore downplay or forget is that they
all leave a lasting and deeply traumatic ffect on their subjectsReading the account of a woman who spent a large leave a lasting and deeply traumatic My Little Blue Dress effect on their subjectsReading the account of a woman who spent a large rather important portion of her life dealing with the unwanted affections of a stalkerspecially when it has been something that you xperienced yourself is deeply troubling and difficult to read And it unveils a rather disconcerting truth that many of us are aware of but have not consistently fought until recently It breaks my heart to know how prevalent it has been for men to take advantage of women in this society particularly those men in power
consent was awas a account dark and uncomfortable to read It was thoroughly brave for Freitas to publish and was an specially important commentary on the disgraces of the systems that were meant to protect and help women in these situations but only Adam Smith: An Enlightened Life ever really served to protect the abusers and their institutions The memoir discusses the long lastingffect that such horrifying Crazy Love events leave upon their victims and the difficulties with which victims consistently have in placing blame solely on those who have hurt themWhile it doesn t uite get into the intricacies and horrors of rape for consent does not begin with sex Consent does touch deeply on the intricacies of what we consent to and what we do not when we avoid in order to be polite and what we put up with because we are fearful of the things someone with power over our lives whether that power is over our jobs our futures our families or somethinglse Annual Editions: Technologies, Social Media, and Society entirely can take or destroyFreitas abuser destroyed much in her life left her with a deep trauma that took years of therapy to manage and still has not been repaired No amount of retribution could reallyver make up for the losses suffered on account of the fear and damage that such an vent has on one s life So much ignorance xists around these subjects that I genuinely believe the xistence of books that account these vents have the very real potential to change the course of societal thought on toxic masculinity for what and why men feel Black Heart, Red Ruby entitled to ignore consent and coerce until they get what they wantWhile I would definitely recommend this book I will say that it could be traumatic for some and is one to seriously consider prior to reading as some bits may be rather triggering I received a free copy of this book via NetGalley inxchange for an honest review Instagram Twitter Reader Fox Blog Bloglovin Facebook Many thanks to Little Brown for sending me a copy in xchange for an honest review Goodreads Blog Pinterest LinkedIn YouTube Instagram If you need another memoir of sexual harassment to make you resent ven what university culture and the Catholic Church have done to women over the years this is the one to get your blood boiling You ll spend much of the second half of the book shaking your head in disbelief at what Freitas s graduate advisor who was also a priest did to her how the university and the church New Plant Parent: Learn the Ways of Plant Parenthood enabled him and how they cheated her out of the right to do anything about it While not a fun read this book is incredibly powerful The author finds her voice to speak her truth including the self doubt that comes from long term gaslighting Ab. Professor for than two years As a doctoral candidate Freitas loved asking big uestions challengingstablished theories and sinking her teeth into sacred texts She felt at home in the library and safe in the book lined offices of scholars whom she admired But during her first year one particular scholar became obsessed with Freitas' academic nthusiasm He filled her student mailbox with letters and articles He lurked on the sidewalk outside her apartment He called daily and lef.
Characters Consent A Memoir of Unwanted AttentionSolutely incredible My thanks to Little Brown and Company for sending me an advance copy of this book in xchange for an honest review All opinions are my own and are not influenced by the publisher Consent was a difficult read in some respects it was difficult to see the author recount her trauma but than that it was difficult to think about the God's Pocket excuses she internally made for her stalker before thingsscalated out of control Most women have been there with varying degrees of severity Maybe he doesn t realize he s being inappropriate Maybe I m being overly sensitive and he s not actually being inappropriate at all Maybe I saiddidwore something that made him think this behavior would be welcomeThis memoir is a an ЯED engrossingxploration of blurry lines of consent and the harassers who rely on plausible deniability Consent is a brilliantly rendered memoir authored by a woman Donna Freitas who dreamed of being a professor Unfortunately she ncountered a huge hurdle to realizing her dreams when a professor a priest no less became obsessed with her Let s just say that the most compelling part of this book is the complete candor with which it is written but that is closely followed by the beautiful use of language Parts of the story are poetically rendered others have of an academic cast and some parts are simply deeply personal What makes this book so fascinating is that Donna tells her story in such vivid detail including her innermost thoughts and her tremendous self doubt It does help the reader to understand how a situation can start innocuously nough but then by the time the victim realizes what is happening she no longer feels mpowered to stop it Her view of herself in hindsight is so interesting She never really is able to reconcile her image of herself as an attractive person in control of her sexuality filled with passion for a life of the mind with a person who was victimized but when I read about her family background and her propensity for leaning so hard into her studies building very close relationships with her teachers from a young age I do see some red flags Unfortunately she managed to come into contact with a predator who with little than psychological manipulation invaded her life She shows how it happened through her uniue lens and the reader xperiences the horror of it She asks why me and then I personally think some readers will see the answer yet she remains unsure Sadly the Moreno ending is not as satisfying as one hopes for throughout but it is instructive There was a lot I would have liked to discuss about this book so I think it would bextremely good for book clubs I walked away with uestions than before I read her account All in all I found the author to be xtremely brave to tackle this topic the way that she did for the world to read Five stars all the way NetGalley He wouldn t let up page 140 the start of chapter 11At the risk of sounding like virtue signaling Consent is the first book in awhile to really provoke anger in me Although Freitas blunt memoir details the disruptive xperiences that have caused her much anguish her undeniable skill as a writer A Spark of Light: the fearless new novel from the Number One bestselling author especially pages 160 to 163 the hardcoverdition where she brilliantly describes the problems that women can or will face when reporting sexual harassment stalking in the US make this a must read What If especially for a male audience She writes in a very straightforward manner that places the reader right alongside her in the recollectionsFreitas was a grad student in DC back in Thanks to Netgalley and Little Brown Company for a digital galley inxchange for an honest review This is the type of non fiction that can be really difficult to rate The author Donna Freitas is detailing the lengthy pursuit of a stalker during her grad school time at Georgetown University This happened in the 90 s and as Donna takes us through the increasingly difficult situation that she lived in it becomes increasingly clear how far her pursuer will go It s Donna s story and she s walking in her truth and I know that it couldn t have been asy to have it published for a bunch of strangers to read I applaud her for this Truthfully that s why it s
difficult for me to rubber stamp it withfor me to rubber stamp it with 3 star But given the difficult topic it s not one that I would asily recommend to just anyoneGoodreads review published 190719Publication Date 130819. T nagging voicemails He befriended her mother and made himself comfortable in her family's home He wouldn't go away While his attraction was not overtly sexual it was undeniably inappropriate and most importantly unwanted In Consent A Memoir of Unwanted Attention Donna Freitas delivers a forensic The Exhaustion Breakthrough: Unmask the Hidden Reasons You're Tired and Beat Fatigue for Good examination of the years she spent stalked by her professor and uses her nightmarishxperience to xamine the ways in which we stigmatize debate and attempt to understand consent today. This memoir is complicated for me to review "it tells a story of how the author "tells a story of how the author professor who was also a priest mentor and department chair chose and stalked his prey a young woman ager to learn There were several insights "About Harassment And Abuse That I Gleaned " harassment and abuse that I gleaned the book and I ve included those notes below But the book was difficult to read in part because of the content but mostly because the author drags out parts of the story and spends pages discussing a minute part of the story perhaps in an Hark! The Herald Angels Scream effort to make the book longer or to psychoanalyze the situation I do believe this story needs to be told and I m grateful Donna Freitas chose to tell it Women and men should understand how harassment and stalking feel and know that they do have a voice Insights What they wanted was my voice Women s tongues are dangerous when they let us keep themI know that I should be capable of telling myself what I tell college students who ve been assaulted and harassed like I was It s not your fault Don t blame yourself And yet I am unable to convince myself of thisDeath of a treasured spot to meverywhere she and he went together or where he stalked herProfessor L knew the way to my heart Predators study preyHis attention made me feel specialYou begin to doubt your judgment about Colloquial Polish: The Complete Course for Beginners everything when your harasser doesn t accept no for an answer and continues to contrive ways to connect with you or when heshe turns the blame onto youProfessor L carefully calculated stalking behavior from the get goI wanted to give him a benefit of the doubt mostly because he was her mentor a priest respected in the school community and worldI did NOT consent No way But I kept my non consent to myself I was still too afraid toxpress my resistance openlyAnd I felt so ashamed I felt many kids of ashamedSaying no really saying it firmly was out of the uestion for a long long time until his behavior grew so intolerable and so out of control and so
Obsessive And Unyielding That I No Longer Cared About Myand unyielding that I no longer cared about my or what might happen if I offended him Until I was so desperate and broken that I didn t want a future any at allI colluded with my stalker s behavior as a way of preserving my own sanity My initial consent to his behavior could not be ungiven This man would continue to see how I was in the beginning and refuse to see how I soon became once my feelings about his behavior shifted A shift occurred on the night my cover story had fallen apart Victims must own the power of naming what they re xperiencingMandatory reporting is like being violated all over again It takes away the victim s voice and makes himher confront reality before heshe is readyI needed my own voiceTrauma is funny like that It helps a person bury something so deeply that they literally don t remember it s there until they do It shows up at strange timesReplace the word but with and because two seemingly opposing things can be held in tensionI am no longer afraid Read this review and others on my blog A Memoir of Unwanted Attention by Donna Freitas is Donna s account of the stalking and unwanted attention she faced as a graduate in collegeDonna is a well published author a scholar and knowledgeable in her field of sex religion and consent on college campuses She s a sought after speaker and thrives in academiaDonna is a doctor a daughter and a friend But she s also a victimAs a college graduate one of her professors at her Catholic university a priest started taking an inappropriate interest in her While his attentions weren t blatantly sexual they were incessant and unwanted This priest would call Donna follow Donna and fill her mailboxes with lettersSince he was in a position of power Donna struggled with how to handle her stalker He was verywhere She couldn t get away from himConsent is an in depth Bidadari yang Mengembara examination of Donna s nightmarish years as a doctoral candidate being stalked by her professorConsent by Donna Freitas was a fascinating read While it didn t blow me away Injoyed itIt s so Red River Girl easy to think of harassment as black and white Is sending a few letters and making a few phone calls really harassment Donna does a wonderful jobxploring consent and what that really means Donna didn t consent to her professor s attentions She was an unwilling participant who was subjected to her professor s repeated and unwanted affection And her professor wa. In this compelling and disturbing true story Rebecca Traister a young woman's toxic mentor develops a dark stalking obsession that disrupts her career and her peace of mindDonna Freitas has lived two lives In one life she is a well published author and respected scholar who has traveled around the country speaking about Title IX consent religion and sex on college campuses In the other she is a victim a woman who suffered and suffers still because she was stalked by her graduate.